Bullying and Toxic Masculinity

Jason Frerichs

Founding Member and first Chair of the Iowa Democratic Party Progressive CaucusContributor at The Good Men Project

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4 Responses

  1. pwlsax says:

    This is going to be a very hard fight. Bullying is not patriotic but it is an unspoken part of Americanism in important ways. If you serve our country in the military you learn that it is a tool of training unity, that it gets the job done and saves lives. On the job it is always an option, especially in jobs that depend on traditional male strength and teamwork.
    Beyond that, a lot of our American myths depend on men filling traditional roles in traditional ways. Focusing on bullies as a problem disturbs a lot of people – they feel sure the only thin that can fill the empty space is weak, ineffective people, male or female.
    What we must do in resposne is show examples of leadership that does not employ bullying. Ideally, put them up against leaders that bully and show how everything gets better – morale, teamwork, achievement – when you don’t.
    Bullying is wrong in itself, but unfortunately, a lot of people only care about the results it gets – for individuals, groups, and they believe, America. Let’s show that you get better results without it and people will start to come around.

  2. Zach says:

    You’re views are very well written but in my experience, it’s more so horrible role models at home that create this toxic masculinity, I encourage you to look into Machevellian Traits and the effects of Emotional Projection and lack of Stability. It’s identical among the line of what creates sadistic, cruel people talked about here out of men and women. This is also why bullying is something we can never completely get rid of, citing the Law Of Averages and our Shadow Personality (Check that out too!) In today’s world, I find that we have lost (but we are recovering) the true essence and responsible use of Masculine energy as protectors, warriors and teachers. This was a great read! Best of luck to you! Cheers

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